Welcome to the part of Afresh Hypnotherapy completely dedicated to the well-being of parents.

I am really lucky to work with clients from all walks of life, over the last couple of years though, I've noticed a large proportion of clients I work with are women, a similar age to myself that have young children.

I became interested in Perinatal Trauma after noticing many of my clients touched upon the subject even though that wasn't the original reason they began to work with me. I could see how these experiences were leaving a negative impact on their lives and affecting how they felt about themselves and often affecting relationships with those close to them.

Unfortunately, it is common that the difficulties of parents are overlooked, and their emotions are minimised during the perinatal time. This often leads to the sufferer feeling unheard, dismissed, and reluctant to seek further help, often leading to more feelings of despair.

If you feel that you are experiencing perinatal trauma, and by that, I include a difficult IVF journey, miscarriage, birth trauma itself, or a difficult breastfeeding journey, then let me share with you how I may be able to help.

Perinatal trauma is the term used to describe a person's negative and ongoing response to one or several difficulties experienced during pregnancy, birth, or postnatally.

Symptoms may include:

Strong uncomfortable feelings when recalling the memory

Nightmares or flashbacks

A feeling of anxiety or irritability

Tearfulness

Avoidant behaviour - for example avoiding places or people where you may be asked about your experience (appointments or baby groups)

How can I help?

As a qualified TBR Practitioner, I can support you using the Traumatic Birth Recovery 3-Step Rewind technique. The technique itself aims to alleviate the strong, uncomfortable feelings you experience when recalling the event or difficult time.

During the actual event, it is likely that your body experienced the natural 'fight or flight' response, and if you felt you had little or no control at the time you may remain on guard even now, after the event. This can leave you feeling on edge, anxious, hyper-vigilant, and generally in a low mood state some or most of the time.

Using the natural power of deep,

physical and mental relaxation we can experience the event again, allowing ourselves to realise we are now safe and no longer need to stand on guard.

This may be the first time you have openly discussed your thoughts and feelings about your experience. This is powerful in itself. Gentle discussion allows us to identify the events or experiences that are troubling to you and plan a road map to where you would like to be. The TBR rewind technique softens the overwhelming automatic responses and makes room for the new experiences you would like.

The technique is also suitable for anyone else that witnessed or felt distressed by a traumatic experience including:

Birth partners

Doulas

Midwives

Medical staff

Traumatic Birth Recovery (TBR) - 3-Step Rewind

The TBR 3-Step Rewind is a therapeutic technique designed to allow the traumatic experience to be processed.
We are not looking to erase the memory itself however when recalled the charge and emotion will be significantly reduced, freeing you from the often distressing thoughts and feelings that can interfere with dayto-day life and the connection with those we love.
This technique is known as a brief intervention. It is suitable for those looking for relief from symptoms before they escalate.
The TBR 3-Step Rewind technique is unsuitable for anyone with pre-existing mental health issues. Please feel free to contact me should you require signposting to someone who can support you and your specific needs.

What do the sessions look like?

Although the sessions have a structure, each one is tailored to you and allows time to go at your own pace.

Step 1 (90 minutes)
The first session allows time and space for you to share your story (should you wish to)
Next, we discuss the changes you would like to experience once the symptoms have lifted. This session also introduces
deep relaxation. You will be given a recording to use at home between sessions.
Step 2 (60 minutes) 7 days after step 1
Birth partners
Doulas
Midwives
Medical staff
During this session, you are guided to recall the event in 3 very specific ways whilst deeply relaxed and feeling completely
safe.
Step 3 (60 minutes) 10-14 days after step 2
During this last session, we review session 2 and talk about the changes noticed with a positive focus on the future, again
concluding with a deep relaxation.

The details

I offer a complimentary consultation to allow for any questions you may have. It is so important that you are 100% comfortable with your therapist and this is a great opportunity to get a feel for me and how I work.
The cost is £155.00 for all 3 sessions and is invoiced before the first session.
Sessions can take place from the comfort of your own home using an online platform however it is essential that you will not be disturbed and can fully relax.
I offer evening and weekend sessions, online and in person from my therapy room in Lyndhurst, in the New Forest.

Get in touch

Feel free to contact me over the phone or e-mail, my working hours are very flexible so am generally able to meet the specific appointment requirements of my clients.

Melanie Draper
Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist
Dip Hyp. Dip CBH. GHR. CNHC.
Address: 30A High Street, Lyndhurst, SO43 7BG
Telephone: 07368 559 266
Email: melanie@afreshhypnotherapy.com
Website: www.afreshhypnotherapy.com

Mel, is amazing! She is very compassionate, and keen to work with you to understand your challenges and what you need, but also will go completely to your pace and comfort levels. She has a great set up and has created a really safe space! She is easily someone you can put your trust in.

She has supported me with some areas of high emotion and challenge after giving birth! Breaking down the sessions, working with me to support me through a difficult time. After the 3 sessions, I feel a lot more at ease, Which has helped me no end prepare for the arrival of baby no 2! I can't thank Mel enough for her support.
Kat (Hampshire)